Comparison, Why Do We Do It?!

Anyone else feel me?


It seems to be our default position to compare ourselves to others, in school, in life, in appearance, in work, in skills, in business, in fact, in everything!



I started writing this article, but I hit a stumbling block, I felt like a fraud!

I compare myself to people all the time! How can I tell you not to compare yourself to others? And then once again I find myself down that comparison rabbit hole!



Actually I am totally the right person to talk to you about comparison because I get it, I do it, and I have strategies (that sometimes work and sometimes don’t – I’m only human!)

Comparing ourselves to others is so deeply ingrained in our society.


It starts in early childhood, we are taught to behave the way others do, act with manners, keep the status quo and conform to societal norms. It is the way we get a sense of belonging however as a child we have so much more freedom of thought and exploration and discovery of the world and what we can achieve within it.

However, when we start going to school that freedom and discovery changes and becomes less optimistic. The educational system as we know it, is grounded in the practice of comparison.


All our academic, sporting, and artistic achievements, all day to day assessments, all the exams and tests we take, are based on matching our results to a 'standard'.

How do you not compare yourself to others after spending the majority of your childhood and adolescence in such an achievement-oriented environment?


There will always be someone making more money or having more success but we are all on a different journey, we didn't start at the same point, or with the same tools, or working towards the same dreams so why do we spend our energy looking out when looking in is so much more fun!


When we look at others we don't see the hard work that goes in behind the scenes, we do not know about the late nights, the debt, the lack of support from friends and family, the criticism, the self doubt and the sacrifices that have led to the end product.

Instead of comparison let’s focus on our own achievements and what success looks like for everyone of us individually!


To do this is not easy, here are 3 of my top tips;


1. Unfollow accounts on social media that trigger feelings of comparison

2. At the end of each week write down your wins, big or small they are wins!

3. Once a month focus on all your achievements you have had the previous month


These 3 tactics have really helped me!

Life is a highway (according to Rascal Flatts in Disney Pixar’s Cars) and we have one hell of a journey ahead.



Are we always gonna get it right? Err nope!


Are we gonna make mistakes? Err yep!



But it is your highway babe, so my advice to you is always look in and see the amazing things you have achieved and the growth you have had rather than wasting that precious creative energy on comparing yourself to others!


How do you combat that naughty comparison syndrome?

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